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«hold off, Is it a Date?» Podcast Episode 107: appreciate just isn’t a lay | Autostraddle

«hold off, Is it a Date?» Podcast Episode 107: appreciate just isn’t a lay | Autostraddle

Wipe out those break up tears because we’re going to explain to you that really love just isn’t a lie! This week we have Autostraddle publisher as well as around symbol
Heather Hogan
talking about their 11 year(!!) union with her partner as well as circumstances overall connections.

But initial! We enjoy becoming reunited — after an eventful summertime! — and play a game title of guess the tv show from fanfic.


SHOW RECORDS

+ In case you are an A+ user, look for
this substantial crossover fanfic
the Autostraddle TV Team collectively wrote,  such as the Buffy/Faith/Nia Nal threesome I concocted.

+ among the first pieces I typed for Autostraddle was
this essay about period one of

Fleabag.

+ one more reason become an A+ member: this
exclusive examine Heather and Stacy’s marriage!

+ I like communication but
as Vanessa outlined right here
there was any such thing as excessively processing.

+ If you want a further look into my personal attitude that simply because a connection closes does not mean it wasn’t important,
examine the best article
I actually authored.



Heather:

We remained from entire evening, that’s simply very of personality for both people. And I believe it was just, this really is indicative in our commitment, i do believe, where it was the same as, this really is amazing. Let’s simply do the second thing. This is so that fun. Let us simply do the following point. And I also genuinely believe that’s just been exactly how all of our relationship’s been for like 11 years. Each step recently been like, «This part’s fantastic. What’s the next thing we could do?» So, yeah.


Theme tune performs


Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.


Christina:

And I Also’m Christina.


Drew:

And introducing,

Hold off, Is This a romantic date?


Christina:


Wait, Is This a Date?

is actually an Autostraddle podcast dedicated to the burning up concern: delay, is it a date? In which Drew and that I find all sorts of things about online dating. What exactly is dating, somethingn’t dating. And really merely have a grand adventure, I would state.


Drew:

I would also point out that this has been a huge adventure at this point and certainly will remain. I’m called Drew Gregory. I’m a writer for Autostraddle and a filmmaker and a trans lesbian. And that I wish to have something totally new to enhance the mix. We never can think about anything brand-new. I do believe those are my identities.


Christina:

Occasionally identification doesn’t change, despite just what TikTok will tell you.


Drew:

I Am Jewish.


Christina:

Yeah. I Am Talking About like—


Drew:

Type of. I am talking about, yeah. No, I’m not religious, but that’s additionally part of my personal identification. You’ll be able to tell from my tresses.


Christina:

That featuresn’t altered however, perhaps.


Drew:

That I Am Jewish?


Christina:

Yeah. You have been Jewish.


Drew:

No, I’ve been Jewish. Yeah, that did not happen amongst the two symptoms. Really, that are you, Christina?


Christina:

I’m Christina. I am additionally a writer at Autostraddle. A loud homosexual on the web. I am really looking forward to the introduction of Princess Diana season, AKA cycle short pants and sweatshirts. This is where I’m trying to end up being. I’m in Philadelphia, making it 96 levels today. Therefore we’re gradually obtaining truth be told there. It’s just like i’d like it now. It really is my perfect time. I wish to be a primary figure into the fall, and it’s perhaps not happening however.


Drew:

Yeah. Well, what exactly is interesting that you are disclosing at the moment is actually, thus in regards to our audience, it’s been weekly since our final event, and that’s just what it always is. But also for you, we in fact taped initial six episodes while we had been discovering our voice and building this brand-new podcast. We recorded that ahead of time, nevertheless now we are quite current. Making this like we have had an entire summertime. Therefore we haven’t recorded in several months and now we’ve been around all sorts of things


Christina:

Uncharted region. The final time we recorded, we hadn’t came across. We’ve satisfied personally.


Drew:

That’s true! Yes!


Christina:

Drew was at my personal ding, dang house, simply hanging out.


Drew:

Yes!


Christina:

I would merely wake up and start to become similar, «Well, look, that’s Drew over indeed there.»


Drew:

Thus great.


Christina:

It was truly wonderful.


Drew:

You have these a pleasant home.


Christina:

Thank you so much. Its a gay turmoil residence so we think it’s great extremely dearly. Yeah. Therefore we’re just on an innovative new journey and it’s truly exciting to get going on this venture with the help of our listeners. Can we have anything else we wish to pontificate in regards to before we have into our very own little game?


Drew:

After all, I am not sure. I’d a huge summertime, but I Assume circumstances will happen right up as episodes come along, but…


Christina:

Yeah, I do not would like you to load everything right in front.


Drew:

You do not need me to ruin any such thing?


Christina:

Yeah. Load every thing in the front? My personal Jesus, what a horrible sentence.


Drew:

It seemed a little bit sexual, but in addition I really had more of a considered love—


Christina:

It did!


Drew:

I was thinking much more though that you were leaving Home Depot and had been like stepping into your car, which I learn there’s no necessity, but that was additionally in which my personal mind is, which can be intimate.


Christina:

I also merely love that the thing which is keeping me from gonna Home Depot is a vehicle and not the person who i’m. Like anytime i am at property Depot, somebody has-been like, «Ma’am will you be missing? Are you presently secure right here?» And I also’m love, «No, frankly. So much wood about. I am not secure.» Therefore I have actually a casino game for Drew because we love to play games.


Drew:

I’m hearing.


Christina:

And I chose, throughout honor of me and our very own guest, that this would end up being somewhat intro inside field of fanfic for Drew. What exactly We have done is i have taken five shows from Drew’s preferred Characters in Television number, and I am planning to read you some tags from AO3’s fanfiction and you are likely to need certainly to imagine which from the shows these labels are talking about. I’ll begin basic, they will increase certain to your program once we complement.


Drew:

Okay. I Simply have some questions—


Christina:

Obviously you are doing.


Drew:

Because I am not sure a whole lot concerning fanfic world. Therefore every show provides terms being of that demonstrate?


Christina:

Yes.


Drew:

That range in specificity, i might imagine?


Christina:

Sure. Yes, they actually do.


Drew:

And therefore any time you wished to get a hold of a demonstrate that had like, I am not sure, medieval times you could strike the medieval tag.


Christina:

We’ll declare that I didn’t find any medieval instances labels in just about any of the programs. Want to find it.


Drew:

Well, that is not my taste, but I became merely throwing something out.


Christina:

Yes.


Drew:

Because i assume inside my mind, I became like, oh, well, if you find yourself reading fanfic, you are looking for shows that have actually characters you want. But that’s not necessarily the actual situation. Often you are checking for a subject and then you can discover programs from fanfic?


Christina:

You could. That could be a strange way to address fanfic since the majority people approach it understanding the ship they usually have planned. After which they say, i do want to study possibly an alternate universe form of this fanfic. Perhaps i would really like some damage comfort. Probably i’d like a slow burn. Possibly i recently desire some upright smut. There’s lots of locations where people go. Then there’s also simply additional tags, letting you know the type of taste and vibe from the tale. And then weare going to go flavor and feeling. Because certainly vessels will give it out and an alternate market is certainly not particularly beneficial per the tv series, so weare going to end up being certain into program.


Drew:

Okay, cool. Why don’t we hop engrossed.


Christina:

All right.


Drew:

Let us find out together. Yeah.


Christina:

All right. The first one. We’re going to start out with fictional politics, compliments kink, abandonment issues, very sluggish burn.


Drew:

Compliments kink, political… Fictional politics?


Christina:

Fictional politics, yes.


Drew:

Really does which means that like politics that are grounded when you look at the real life, but are imaginary or entirely imaginary politics?


Christina:

I’ven’t look at the fic involved, but i am presuming this means completely fictional politics.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

We could keep working.


Drew:

Yeah, carry on.


Christina:

History misuse, injured comfort, I need soft items to stay and thus would you. Humorous tag. Simply had to review this one.


Drew:

Okay, hold off. Perhaps i will simply take an additional and considercarefully what my favorite shows tend to be. Okay. Because i am wanting to think of the suggests that have politics inside. Oh wait, would it be

The L Word?


Christina:

This package is not

The L Keyword.

No.


Drew:

For the reason that it comes with fake politics.


Christina:

It does.


Drew:

Because Bette runs for mayor. I’m not sure in the event that you keep in mind that.


Christina:

Oh, I do.


Drew:

Okay, let’s see. How Many Other…

Vida

features politics.


Christina:


Vida

has actually politics.


Drew:

Is-it

Vida?


Christina:

Unfortunately,

Vida

needs any fanfics.


Drew:

Oh, what?


Christina:

I understand. So people, will it.


Drew:

Men and women, get on that. I might read that fanfic.


Christina:

People, reach it.


Drew:

Okay. Let’s see. The Other…


Christina:

I’m able to carry on.


Drew:

Keep going. Yeah.


Christina:

Cat and mouse. Possessive behavior.


Drew:

Oh, oh,

Killing Eve.


Christina:

There you choose to go.


Drew:

Cat and mouse had gotten me personally. Oh, reward kink. Yeah. Okay, it really is all pressing. It really is all clicking.


Christina:

Almost everything ticks. Every thing presses. It was also difficult because I experienced to track down ones which were specific adequate to the tv series, but also like, it might shock that understand there are plenty of praise kink situations nowadays.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Exactly like quite a bit. Just like quite a bit.


Drew:

It’s my opinion that. I love the society.


Christina:

I understand. These types of just isn’t in your listing of favorite shows and/or favorite TV figures because the your chosen TV shows did not have fics, that has been sad.


Drew:

Great.


Christina:

But this is exactly a program we’ve talked-about a lot and I believe you’ll receive it.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

At some point. This really is going to be very easy for your family, personally i think.


Drew:

Oh, Jesus. Stress.


Christina:

Male friendship. Mentally repressed.


Drew:


Searching?


Christina:

No.


Drew:


Ted Lasso?


Christina:

Yep. Yep.


Drew:

Like, just what reveals perform we watch with men? Okay, let’s decide to try the homosexual one. Nope. Let us try the directly one.


Christina:

Yeah, the other any would definitely be «team connection» and I was like, that’s a simple one. There is a simple one. All right. Why don’t we see. Canon character passing, LGBTQ fictional character of tone. Absolutely a tongue twister for you. Families of option. Mommy daughter relationship.


Drew:


Awareness 8?


Christina:

No. in the region, i’d state. I would state where zone.


Drew:


Pose?


Christina:

Yeah. The second one was going to be canon sex work, therefore — all right, we have two more.


Drew:

Okay. I favor it.


Christina:

Jealousy. I will be frightened with this then episode because I do not trust the article authors. A literal tag with this fic. Iconic.


Drew:

Okay. After all, I do not believe

Glee

is on my record, but that is the thing I would very first consider.


Christina:

It is not

Glee.

I really don’t think

Glee

had been on any listings.


Drew:

It isn’t really.


Christina:

But amusing point. Ex-lovers to pals to enthusiasts trope, family feels, relationship. An extended awaited reunion.


Drew:

Ex-lovers to pals right back. Is this

The L phrase?


Christina:

It really is

The L term.


Drew:

Okay. I became like, ex-lovers to buddies to ex… Yeah, the ex-lovers.


Christina:

The sad benefit of

The L word

fanfic is the incredible level of Bette Tina fanfic is like, y’all want to…


Drew:

You understand, i do believe we would have an excuse to get involved with this later. Which is a tiny bit tease for our primary subject.


Christina:

All right. Angst.


Drew:

Okay.


Christina:

Bittersweet stopping.


Drew:


Freaks and Geeks?


Christina:

Close — no, maybe not near. Really don’t want to lie to you.


Drew:

I am not sure precisely why. I just got a jab at angst and bittersweet ending. That is only type of my personal thing.


Christina:

Yeah. That is true. That’s very true. Romance (extremely unfortunate). That is in parentheses, the unfortunate.


Drew:

And it’s not

The Leftovers.


Christina:

It isn’t

The Leftovers.

I am not planning offer this-


Drew:

Okay. I’ll be capable of geting this. Very anxiety.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative).


Drew:

Bittersweet stopping.


Christina:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Romance parenthesis sad.


Drew:

Romance, extremely sad.


Christina:

Unresolved intimate tension.


Drew:

This is all. This is simply me. This is certainly like every little thing. This might you should be something.


Christina:

Yeah, thanks for visiting fanfic, babe.


Drew:

Ooh. I mean, wow. Just what a welcome.


Christina:

Pining is another one.


Drew:

Just how is it in the same family members? Okay, wait, let me think of indicates that i enjoy which are homosexual and possess an angst. Pining.


Christina:

I’ll state this tv show is not gay.


Drew:

Oh.


Christina:

However it is a demonstrate that i am aware you adore.


Drew:

Ooh.


Christina:

Do you need one thatwill provide it with out?


Drew:

I Really Do imagine we have to access because of the podcast—


Christina:

I do.


Drew:

But if it absolutely was just both you and I like chilling out as buddies, I would wind up as, no, no, no, provide myself a half time. But fine, give me personally usually the one.


Christina:

Blasphemy, spiritual traumatization.


Drew:


Fleabag.


Christina:

Indeed there it is.


Drew:

Truth be told there it’s.

Fleabag

is actually a demonstrate that given that certain insane society around it’s gone away and it is nothing like each one of these irritating people’s personalities, i am similar, amazing tv series.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Simply outstanding show.


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

What a good, great television program. That has been lots of fun. Thanks.


Christina:

When.


Drew:

And I’d want to only create a public-service… No, that isn’t the goals. Exactly like a request to the people that Needs some

Vida

fanfic. I will read it. I am not sure exactly who Needs that it is between. Perhaps it could be, what is actually it labeled as when it’s like two… We did this. We performed this in TV group. We performed like a cross… What’s the word for it? What’s it if it is like multiple shows?


Christina:

Yeah. Cross… Cross… That thing. I am aware what you are saying. I can not consider the term. We could deliver all of our guest in. I’m sure they are aware the word.


Drew:

Okay. We’re going to go into our very own major subject we could make all of our visitor so the woman mind doesn’t explode as she’s wanting to reveal this phrase. Guest, do you want to present yourself?


Heather:

Yes. Hello, this is certainly Heather Hogan. I’m an Autostraddle blogger and publisher. And often while I pay attention to this podcast, we play along like it’s a-game show when y’all are trying to do your games. It had been very hard for me personally is quiet while this was actually happening.


Christina:

I was like, this can be gonna be really fun, but it’s also likely to be so very hard personally for this and Heather you should be hushed.


Heather:

Yeah. The best so far has become, «Who mentioned It: Drew or Sappho?»


Christina:

Thank you.


Heather:

And that I was undoubtedly cheering like I was on

The Purchase Price Is Right.

I was like, «Christina, no it is Drew! It’s Drew! It Is Drew! No, it really is Sappho!» Nevertheless performed fantastic. You didn’t even require my personal assistance at this video game.


Christina:

Re-listening to this one, I became enjoy, really, damn i recognize my buddies slash I guess the writing of Sappho.


Heather:

You did very well.


Drew:

You crushed it. I also went through… To make sure the online game worked, I attempted it on several people. People who do know myself better than you are doing, Christina, plus they all cannot do it. So I ended up being really pleased by you.


Christina:

Sounds like i am a winner, that will be what issues.


Drew:

Heather, reveal what that phrase is actually for our very own fanfiction.


Heather:

It’s just crossover.


Christina:

It is a crossover, yeah!


Drew:

Crossover! Oh, okay. Okay. I was thinking there is some elegant phrase because of it. But anyways, if someone really wants to write

Vida

fanfic that is a crossover, it is something else entirely that Everyone loves. I would want to see more of it. So our very own primary subject this week is certainly not fanfic. Its long-term connections. Because, Heather, how long are you presently within current relationship?


Heather:

I have already been with my wife for 11 decades.


Drew:

Oh, which is a long time.


Christina:

Drew, maybe you’ve completed such a thing regularly for 11 many years? Because We definitely haven’t.


Drew:

No, not gender. I’ven’t accomplished something. Just what have actually We {done|completed|acco
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